'Benching'... the new Dating Term Everyone is Talking About!

Benching is the new dating term you need to know about (it has nothing to do with benches and it’s even more annoying than ghosting).
Remember‘Ghosting’... 
A way to perfectly describe all the dates that had disappeared from our lives without reason or notice?

Well, there’s a new way to describe the massive idiot in your life who you’re interested in but who stops actually seeing you, hanging out with you or committing to dates - but and here the best bit - continues to text, tweet, or snapchat you. Rude!

Been benched? We hear you!

Confused…
think of team sports. When you’re benched, you’re not actually playing. But you’re still on the team, ready and waiting for when the coach decides to bring you back into play.

The problem isn’t new; you may have heard it before from parents being described as ‘led on’.

It’s horrible, because there’s no way to have a clean break or move on. Just when you’re giving up, you’ll get a non-committal but flirty text appears.

How to spot one... 
These people will make the minimum effort required to keep you as an available option - which often means no face-to-face contact - just frequent texts about plans to meet up that never end up happening.

It can be deeply frustrating and disappointing, especially if you really like them!

So if you do suspect you’re being benched; meetups become less frequent, texts go unanswered, but they’ll suddenly get in touch just as you’re about to give up then our advice is to call them on it. Ask why your plans never work out or give yourself a clean break and move on - you deserve better after all!

Love, Flirtify - Summer Just Got Hotter.