Get Rid of the Check-List and be Spontaneous!

How come some people manage to meet Mr or Ms Perfect the very first time they try online dating, meanwhile you're doing the same old routine night after night, wondering why you can't seem to find the right person?

Here's some tips to help you move the odds into your favour:

Tip 1. Rip up the check-list

It's not just your career that you envisage where you’d like to be in a year or five years; you probably have an age in mind of when you want to get married and have kids by too.

While goals are important, having an open mind (and heart) will open more doors to meet somebody new and exciting.

A lot of us fall into the trap of pigeon holing people into categories, depending on their interests, age and height. Some have a check-list of must-have qualities longer than a lot of novels you find at WH Smith! Things like:

- 'they must be at least 6ft tall'
- 'they must have no children'
- 'they mustn't be a sandals and sock wearer'
- 'they have to have perfect teeth, live within 15 miles....have a car no older than 5 years old, not live with their parents.....the list goes on....!

But how important are those things really? Surely if there's an instant spark (think 10 Things I Hate about You...), then is their taste in music, their dentistry records and their hair product preferences, really a big deal? Try writing your ideal partner check list out on a piece of paper and you'll probably realise it's full of artificial qualities that don't really matter in the grand scheme of things.

Tip 2. Be spontaneous

If your plan was to go to yoga and get your weekly grocery shopping after work, but a friend invites you out to a Mexican themed dinner party with her house mates (and their potentially attractive, single friends ) – be spontaneous and change your plans!

Don't just follow the same routine and expect to bump into the one. Luck comes to those who are brave enough to put themselves out there and have some faith that even if it hasn’t worked out before… it can. And it will.

Sign up to Flirtify, and give online dating a go.

For those of you who have joined but given up... log back into Flirtify and get yourself back out there! Update your profile and remember to rip up that check list, be approachable and spontaneous. 

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